The Power Of Offence

He who speaks in tongues speaks not to man 1 Cor 14:2-5
Tongues,unknown language is the message to God,we should say Amen in. Interpretation of tongues is not equal to each other. Prophecy is speaking to man,tongues is speaking to God.
For eg. Tongues and interpretation is 2 £10, whereas prophecy is1 £20.

Prov 4:23
Money, sex and ambition can destroy your heart. But so can disappointment and offence 2 Sam 16:23,2 Sam 17:23. Sometimes you may outwardly have absolutely everything but still be so empty that you are so depressed death seems the only answer.  There is always context between events,between statements. But suicide is an act beyond reversing. 2 Sam 15 :12, 2 Sam 16 :20-22/ 2 Sam 27:1-23.
Ahithopel & Absolum were offended by King David 3 Sam 13. Absolum was upset that David their father did nothing to punish the person who raped his sister, his half brother. 2 Sam 15.  2 Sam 23:34-39 { 2 Sam 11:3} allium is is betheshebas husband who was Ahithopel son. Whom David killed so he could bed Bethesheba.

Ahithopel may have felt that David had abused his service by seducing his granddaughter and killing her husband. You too may help someone but they that you like dirt.

He may say, allium his son saw David as a hero,because kids grew up with the story of David vs Goliath. But now there's  different story of the hero and mentor no longer being a solid example.

He may have said David seduced my granddaughter. He didn't rape her but he was good looking, wealthy and King. She is used to being loved, she was bathing after her menstrual cycle meaning she was not intimate with her husband,may have been a fragile woman anyway,used to being loved. There is always a witness to your crimes. The servants even reminded David about who she is connected to.

David also killed Ahithopel's grandson yurai the hittite. Prov 18:19/ 20:22 /24:29 heb 12:15
You can't choose what happens to you and when, but you can choose how you react to things/situations that hurt you deeply. Because there is life beyond your injury,but only if you keep your injury clean. You may have a scar, but you won't be dead